Today’s post is courtesy of my new-ish friend, Elizabeth, with whom I have a running text conversation going. Some days we write books back and forth to each other but most days it’s a paragraph or two shot out between the craziness of life.
The other day we were discussing The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman. If you’re not familiar with this bestselling book, I’ll give you a quick breakdown of the five different languages in which we show or receive love:
- Physical touch and closeness
- Quality time
- Words of affirmation
- Acts of service
Those are the bare-bones basics, but I strongly urge you to add this book to your library. (There are formats for those in relationships, singles, parents, teachers… you name it. Back when I taught full time I often referenced The Five Love Languages of Children and need to dust off that copy now that I’m a parent.)
Elizabeth asked if perhaps there were ways to use the five love languages to help ourselves as we are #FightingFebruary2016. What a brilliant concept! So here’s what I’ve come up with so far. Feel free to join the conversation in the comments below.
If your love language is physical touch and closeness…
- Find someone to hug today
- Play with a pet or borrow a friend’s
- Find a mom who needs a break and cuddle her baby
If your love language is quality time…
- Set aside time to journal or work on a favorite activity
- Call a friend and chat on the phone
- Set up a coffee date or a girls’ night
If your love language is words of affirmation…
- Find some meaningful letters or emails you’ve received in the past and reread them
- Ask a trusted friend why they love you and what you’re good at
- Write your own list of strengths
If your love language is gifts…
- If it’s in the budget, treat yourself to something. A new pen always makes me happy. This is the one I bought myself last Thursday.
- Again, if it’s in the budget flowers are a perfect gift to give yourself
- Find something around your home you forgot you had and still love
If your love language is service…
- Adjust your to-do list to include checking off a chore you’ve been putting off but longing to finish
- Ask a friend or family member for help with a project or task
- If you have kids, teach them how to do a new chore. They’ll feel proud and you’ll feel loved. The Little Butt loves putting the silverware away and is so pleased with himself when he does so.
I hope these lists spark your own personal creativity and help you enjoy a fabulous February day.
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