By way of introduction, this post is part confession, part me telling myself what I need to do. Since I know we all struggle at times, hopefully it’s helpful for you to join me in this discussion of self-correction.
I’m not quite sure how it happened, but mid-June I got completely off course as far as scheduling, morning routines, and consistency goes. Looking back, the culprit seems to be health related. In trying to make better food choices, I ended up suffering from migraines and significant fatigue. So I went easy on myself…and easier…and easier, until I’d completely lost my way.
There’s a phrase that often rings through my mind at times like these: “take yourself in hand.” And that, my friend, is what I’m inviting you to join me in doing as we get back on course.
Determine the culprit
In my bullet journal I keep a monthly tracker. One of the many things I track are daily wake and bedtimes. Because of this, I can look back and see that while I consistently woke by 5:30 the entire month of May, I was only getting to bed by 10:30 roughly 50% of the time. Since my body needs 7-8 hours of sleep per day, this was culprit number one.
Additionally, as mentioned above, some dietary changes led to migraines and fatigue. Essentially, I’d set myself up for failure. There was no possible way to maintain my lifestyle and production schedule with the food and sleep choices I’d made.
While in my case the culprits were physical, that won’t always be the case. Other culprits might include change or loss of job, relational stress, relocation, holidays, the weather—the list is potentially unending. What affects you might not affect others, but that by no means diminishes your struggle.
Look for patterns
Once again, my bullet journal tracker helped me with this. During May and most of June I exercised consistently, avoided sweets, took my supplements, and drank plenty of water. Towards the end of June, I got lazy about these things.
On top of that, our weekly schedule changed, leaving us more time at home. Due to the heat, I didn’t take the kids to parks or on other outings. We shrank into our own little world. For an extravert like me, that spells disaster. I need lots of time with people—tall people, or at least taller than 48”.
I also hadn’t checked in with my Miracle Morning accountability partner for a while. My excuse was that I’d been doing so well—why bother her? (Friends, I can literally hear her eyes roll.)
Make a plan
It’s one thing—and a very good thing, at that—to determine the culprit and look for patterns. Making a change is a whole different animal.
In order to make a successful plan, there are four questions we need to ask:
1. What do I want?
I want a consistent schedule, where I wake up before my kids, complete my morning routine (including exercise), and have stable energy levels throughout the day.
2. Why do I want it?
Because life goes more smoothly when I’m up first, taking care of my body and soul. I think more clearly and behave more appropriately. I can achieve my goals without gross neglect of my family.
3. What am I willing to change or give up to get it?
That’s the $64,000 question, right?
- I’m willing to give up my ideas of what I think healthy food choices should be for ones I know work for me.
- I’m willing to drink less coffee and more water, and plan ahead for meals.
- I’m willing to watch less TV and go to bed earlier so I’m ready and excited to face the following day.
- I’m willing to give up sleep-in days. They cost too much in the long run.
- I’m willing to humble myself and reconnect with my accountability partner until I’m back on track. (Give me a moment while I message her…)
4. Who will help me?
This last question leads me to the final point in my game plan, so let’s move right onto it.
Get a Team
Candy, who offered to help me make a meal plan because she knows I’m not good at planning ahead in this area.
Tameka, my Miracle Morning accountability partner.
Elizabeth, a friend who faithfully encourages and prays for me.
The Sisterhood, who will check in with me on all aspects of life, whether physical, emotional, or spiritual.
My mom, who is my sounding board for all things.
Even if you don’t have a huge support system, or even one person, don’t use that as an excuse. We all have to start somewhere. Your team doesn’t need to live in your hometown—maybe you’ll never even get the chance to meet in person. That’s the great thing about our present world: it’s relatively small and navigable. You can find the people you need to make up your team.
Are you ready to reboot?
There’s no time like now. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Will you join me in making it count?
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