Which are you—the girl who keeps it all bottled up inside, or the one guilty of serious over share?
I fall into the second category. Perhaps that’s why I started blogging—it gives me a safe(ish) place to open up.
Let me tell you, these past few weeks have taken me to a new level of openness, first with my post about homeschooling, and then telling the world my issues with weight. I’m still holding my breath, wondering if there will be any fallout.
Even as a teen, I knew that the whole “me, too!” aspect of friendship is what made relationships grow. Honesty and sincerity lead to more honesty and sincerity, which lead to deep, personal relationships.
In plain English, if we all share our crap, we’ll all see that we’re real, broken, amazing women. And then we’ll all feel comfortable to be even more open and honest.
But it’s not always as easy as that sounds. Someone has got to take the first step.
Rebelling Against the Social Media “Highlight Reel”
It’s no secret that most of us post the best of our lives to Facebook, Instagram, and more. While some say that’s 100% wrong, I don’t think we should go that far.
Why? Because we need to own and celebrate those amazing moments in our lives.
The moments when our kids are adorable and loving and sweet.
When our guy treats us like a queen.
When we enjoy the best girls’ night ever.
When our living room is enough to make Martha Stewart drool.
Celebration is good, but it’s only one facet of life.
Life—real life—is made up of highs and lows (sometimes a lot of lows) and everything in between. And if we want to be honest, we need to share more of those in between moments, and even a few of the lows.
Not to elicit sympathy or vent or complain. Not at all. The place for that is in private conversation.
No, we need to embrace these other parts of our lives because there is a woman out there who needs to see that she’s not alone, that you’re not perfect, and that other women are struggling, too.
Honesty Requires Wisdom
Now, before you join me on my crusade for vulnerable honesty, it’s important to weigh the cost. To be wise.
While most of us long for honesty, there are still mean girls of all ages out there. What are you willing to risk in front of them? Can you handle them using your honesty against you? Can your family?
Other questions to ask include:
Is what I’m about to share appropriate?
Is it my story to share?
Will opening up in this way hurt anyone?
There is a time and a place for every story, but it might not be online. When in doubt, ask a trusted friend or partner.
So…how do you really feel about honesty?
Are you ready to take the leap with me? To open up and allow us all to embrace and encourage and learn from the real you?
I hope so, because I need you. We all need you. And I hope that, even in some small way, my honesty helps you, too.